“Fear is not real.
The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future.
It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist.
That is near insanity.
Do not misunderstand me, danger is very real, but fear is a choice.”
~ Will Smith, After Earth
If you feel good, and hold onto that feeling, the chances are you will continue to feel good.
OK, lets put it another way.
You watch the news and its chock full of grief, war, famine, death. You think about a really unhappy time in your life and it makes you sad. You listen to melancholy, depressing music and you end up sitting in a zombified stupor, with zero incentive to motivate yourself.
Turn it on its head.
Comedy is on the TV and you are crying with laughter. You are joking about the time you went to work in your slippers and your new boss requested an audience. You have some cracking happy tunes filling your ears, with a big fat ”Yay!” feeling, and you want to dance right there and then!
You can see a pattern happening here, no?
Now, really, really think about the two scenarios and read them again. Did you read one slowly and the other one seem to make your eyes gallop across the page? How did each one make you feel? Well, either I didn’t get the point across properly or I am in my own happy delusional dimension.
To quantify, when you see, hear or experience something negative it does not feel good. By switching off to the negative, and filling your thoughts with something you do like, will in essence lift your spirits, your vibration, your energy and your mood. Life is of course all about choices. You can of course choose to allow negative things into your life – but what good does it do really? Would you not rather choose the positive and be happy?
Whatever positives you want in your of life; whether it be more money, to be physically fit, more confidence, to study and learn more, to be successful in your home and work life, you can attract it much quicker if you feel that is what you will do and emit positive vibes.
When you think about what you want, you know you want it because you believe it will make you happy. Take a look at these two statements:
“I wish I had more money”
“I want money”
The first is kind of wistful, day-dreamy and lacks drive, enthusiasm and raw emotion. Wishing for something may in fact put it further out of your reach, out of your life and it becomes as fanciful as the Philosophers Stone.
On the other hand statement two is more direct. It is clear and describes exactly what you want without the need of additional, unnecessary wording. You can really pour power and feeling into the statement and by doing so you are sending out your positive energy, your positive vibration.
As what you want will make you happy the emotion driving your wanting is happiness. So if you have not reached your goal, your want, the next step is to bring your vibration in line with the feeling you have, when you visualize getting what you want right now. If you feel happy now your vibration is tuned in to receive, as happiness creates happiness.
By being happy right now you lift your vibration and your positive emotions. By consistently feeling good and feeling positive you will bring in your desires much, much faster than if your emotions are on rollercoaster mode. Feel good and get what you want – simple.
Agreed, there are trails and tribulations in life, but by diluting the negative emotions, worry anxiety, fear, stress etc. you will: a) Cope better b) Feel better and c) Deal with them better.
So start feeling good and get what you want right now by doing one or more of the following, every single day.
- Listen to positive, fun, upbeat music.
- Watch your favourite comedy shows.
- Watch your favourite feel good movies.
- Get outside. Go to the park and sit on a park bench or take a trip to your favourite beauty spot.
- Do something silly. E.g. Tell a joke, find a funny clip. dance in the street - to make you and your friends laugh.
- Write down all the things you are thankful for right now.
- Find things that you just love or renew your appreciations for the things you have now. Really feel how you feel when you love your car, your house, perhaps you have seen a must have pair of shoes.
- Exercise. It helps you feel better, gives you energy and helps you sleep better. It does not have to be strenuous – a nice gentle stroll will suffice.
- Eat and drink well. Food and water gives you energy and feeds your grey matter.
- Be spontaneously nice to someone. It will make you feel happy seeing them happy.
- Have a “spring” clean. Clear out your cupboards, drawers, the fridge, sort your clothes and have a good old-fashioned house clean.
- Create and go through your want list. Feel and visualise yourself having your want list and make plans to accommodate your new life.
- Pamper yourself. Soak in the bath for two hours. Have a salon treatment.
- Set aside 1 hour a day. Stop rushing around and take a time out – just for you, no interruptions.
- Listen, watch or read something motivating. YouTube has a plethora of motivational free talks and you can find lots of really good motivational articles on the world-wide-web
- Smells lift your mood. Scented candles, essential oils and incense in your favourite smells will make you feel good, relaxed, warm and happy.
- Air your space. Open the windows and oxygenate your environment and your lungs.
- Have a 10-15 minute power nap. It’s amazing how recharged you can feel in just 10 minutes.
- Buy something you like. It doesn’t need to be expensive. Online shopping is great as anticipate and look forward to receiving your order.
- Write down all the things you do that makes you feel happy. Creating a list will motivate you to do other things and only add to raising your vibration.
By thinking about doing the things you love and by actually doing the things you love you will feel good. By feeling good and raising your spirits and your vibration, you will attract more good things into your life and you will get more of what you want.
So here’s to feeling good, to raising your vibration, and ultimately realising your wants.
- Attracting the Law of Attraction (psychicjeff.wordpress.com)
Whether we openly admit it or not – to ourselves or others – we care about others opinions. It is a human trait in-bedded into our very psyche, since an early age; from school to the big wide “grown-up” (debatable) world of business politics.
However, I want to tap in to your creative selves and forget about everyone else for a while.
I want to introduce you to Holistic Creativity.
The real key to creating anything is to just let yourself go, removing self constraints and release control over your mind.
And in order to obtain holistic creativity you need to experiment, find out what you love to create. Whether it be dancing, painting, drawing, needlework, flower arranging, prose, poetry; even keeping a diary to record your thoughts and feelings is a medium of creativity.
Whatever you choose to create, try not to over think the process or hold the belief that you need to create perfection – especially if it is your first creative experience. Just open your heart and immerse yourself in your creation. Feel every output, every stroke, tap, line, shape, movement, flow……….use it as your therapy, your meditation, your relaxation and just let everything just happen.
Enjoy creating, believe in your creation, love your creation, feel your creation, be a part of your creation and be proud of what you have achieved.
Perhaps, to begin with, you may feel a little nervous about sharing your holistic creation, so it is important to give yourself praise and encouragement, as if you are the teacher looking at a pupils work with pride and awe. And once you have gained confidence you can reveal your achievements to your world.
However, the real objective here is not to make others happy but to make you happy, enrich your holistic well-being and to release any limits you may have set upon yourself. Your creation should provide you with insight, escapism from the world around you and help you to reconnect and harmonise you with the magical depths of the subconscious you.
Holistic creativity is a very personal thing, it gives you the opportunity to reflect and grow your own personal preferences and is an extension of your inner most personality. To coin a rather brutal phrase, “one man’s trash is another man’s treasure”, but it really does not matter if people warm or run from your creation. For example, I like the artist Jackson Pollock, whilst others may see it as childlike squiggle destroying an expensive canvas. Yet I like it. I cannot tell you exactly why I like it, I just do.
In addition, holistic creativity does not require any sense or logic. However, it can provide a deep reflection, or image, of how you view yourself and the world around you. The path of life is ever turning, changing and redirecting and with holistic creativity you can really chart your emotional map through life.
But for now, set rhyme and reason aside, and just use your creative activity to retreat into a world that is happy, warm and welcoming, allowing yourself to take patient baby steps, as you watch your craft evolve and change with your emotions, experiences and skill.
I will leave you with this inspiring quote by the American author, Paul Auster:
The real aim of art is not to create beautiful objects: it’s a method of reflection, a means of understanding the universe and finding one’s place in it
~ Paul Auster
Apologies to those not keen on “Rap”.
However, this tune shows if you really want something, you work hard for what you want (no matter what side of the tracks you are from) you can achieve anything – an ethos also adopted by 9.58 seconds, 100 meter dashing character, Usain “Lightening” Bolt
Anyway, this is Written in the Stars by Tinie Tempah
This quote from GoalHabits.com feels rather apt today.
It’s funny how the media and public opinion sometimes mistake confidence as arrogance.
But the way I see it is this:
If you are passionate about what you do, love every minute, believe in yourself and want to tell the world how happy you are, then you are truly living life to its full potential.
Ever since you were born there was always someone trying to get you to adhere to routine and rules. Feed only 100 odd ml every 4 hours, bath and bed by such and such a time. Then as you get a bit older it becomes, don’t do this, don’t do that. Don’t touch this or you will blow up, don’t stick crayons on the DVD/VHS player, don’t eat candy before dinner, get up! you’ve got to get to school! And so on and so forth.
Every day, in every way, we are being told what to do, from which side of the road to drive on to what we should and shouldn’t eat. It’s a wonder why we are not all in a comatose stupor, all walking around with blank expressions on our faces.
When you were a new-born baby, you pretty much slept, feed and cried when you felt like it – although your parent(s) were told to do things at certain times and read books that told them what to do and when.
But, in truth, you cannot tell a baby to sleep and expect them to instantly obey your command. You cannot tell them they cannot have any more food and assume they will no longer be hungry. A baby will tell you what they want when they want it as they do not understand the concept of the rules.
They say the key to a happy child is rules and routine. And, for many, that philosophy has filtered into adulthood. But it doesn’t have to be that way. One of the REAL keys to a happy life is to challenge what you do, routinely, every single day. Getting yourself out of a continuous loop, the comfortable day-to-day life where you stick to the same rules, times, routines and habits consistently. Just by changing your routine, your environment, even challenging yourself to try new things you can breathe new air into your life.
You have not been put of this earth to stagnate, to create a film of over your pond and wallow there, waiting to be called into line.
So what is my advice? Well, ditch the norm’ and do something different today:
- Change the route you take to work or the school run – you never know it might be quicker!
- Always take the car? Try public transport and get amongst the world a few times a week or, if you can, get a bicycle!
- Are you eating the same old sandwiches at lunch time? Mix it up and try something new, from a different country each day. Something hot, something cold, salads, wraps, pasta, couscous, sweet, savoury, spicy, cooling……..there is a huge choice out there.
- Do you sit at your desk to eat as you are far too busy for a real lunch break? Drop the mouse and go and sit in the park. You will be surprised how refreshed you feel and the amount of work you get done in the afternoon.
- Do you go straight home after work? Why don’t you meet a friend for coffee and a catch-up instead or ask your partner to meet you en-route and just go somewhere, anywhere.
- Is dinner on the table at 7:05pm on the dot and the daily offering is spag bog yet again? Be late, change the time change the menu, buy some new cook books, buy some candles and ditch the glaring light bulbs.
- Gym night Wednesdays night? Go in the morning or change the day. You could meet different people, gain a gym partner, it could be quieter on that day/time….
- How about going to bed when you are tired instead of 10pm every single night?
- Read the same genre of book or only read fiction as opposed to non-fiction? Get into the bookstore and browse for something different
- Change the arrangement of your furniture or change where you place your phone/keys. This will keep your brain in check!
- Have a major clear out – it’s only collecting dust, you don’t use it and you probably never will – be ruthless!
There are soo many ways to keep your life fresh and new.
Drudgery is a perception, a man-made concept, which slowly kills our spirit and zest for life.
So help yourself feel alive and feel good. Do something different today
You can interact with so many different people all across the globe. You can learn, you can share, you can discuss, you can laugh, and you can cry.
I recently asked my network of Facebook friends if they had ever worked with a life coach, and if so, would they share their story with me?
One such friend agreed, and I am soo glad she did. It has given me an insight into the workings of life coaching, from a clients personal perspective. For that I am very grateful.
And this her story, from me, to you………………………………
I would not have thought about, or even paid for, life coaching and in terms of a prize item, I would have favoured a bottle of champagne. But I had won life coaching sessions at work, which was amazing timing. You see, I was at a bit of a crossroads and I think I was ready for a change – more so the on the career front. Strangely enough not long after my win I was made redundant, so it could not have come at a better time.
I did not really know what to expect. I went into the process thinking life coaching was more suited to the executive, business sector. I believed it was more appropriate to the “wanna be” high flyer, looking to climb the corporate and social ladder. Still, given my circumstances I felt lucky, and saw it as a gift from “above”.
However, I was pleasantly surprised. I found the Life Coach tailored her coaching style specifically to me and what I wanted to achieve. My initial obstacle was that I did not know what I wanted out of life so it became a journey of discovery, to find out who I was. Moreover, I felt fortunate that the Life Coach was spiritually aware, as I have always felt more drawn to spiritual, holistic guidance.
The life coaching sessions were conducted over the telephone, which felt alien at first. However, after the first session, I did feel more comfortable and relaxed talking on the phone. There were no distractions or the ability to read each other’s body language – the focus was completely on my life.
Each call lasted approximately 45 minutes. But the first session took longer, as there was a lot of information to divulge. Plus she ran through a questionnaire which I had completed, prior to the call. The main objective of the first call was for her to find out more about me, my life to date, and my current outlook on life.
I found the experience quite soul-searching and the approach was very similar to general counselling techniques. She listened, prompted me to speak, and guiding me to answer my own questions. It was as if she was leading me along a path, in my mind, to think about the present and where I wanted to be in the future - rather than focussing on the past.
She was on the whole understanding, empathic, and she seemed interested in what I had to say. But I did find her a little pushy at times. Her line of questioning really took me out of my comfort zone and deep within myself, to find the answers. I have to say it was uncomfortable, but at the same time a welcomed experience.
I quickly realised that I was plodding through life – the “rat race” – and all I wanted to do was get off the merry-go-round. Without consciously realising it, I was crying out for someone to help me see that I did not need to remain on the ride, that I would not fall over, if I would just take that first step. The life coach confirmed that if I wanted to move forward I could do it on my own.
She underlined the point that life was about the journey and I needed to take note of my desired destination, or goal. I needed to work out where I wanted to be and what I wanted to do for the rest of my life. However, I had a limited number of sessions. I felt rushed and there was no time to explore different options. I had chosen a particular career idea and although it was a good choice, deep down it did not feel right. However, as it was what I told her I wanted, she focused on helping me to believe that I could do it. The life coach also helped me to understand things in a spiritual way and gave me positive affirmations and homework, based on that chosen path.
Then it was time to complete the final task, of actually stepping up and making the new career happen. But it never came to fruition and other situations in my life took precedent. Perhaps it may have been different, if only we had more time or I was in a position to afford more sessions.
That was 3 years ago and I now feel (nearly) ready to take the next step. I feel more equipped now. I have experienced more of my journey and travelled down a few more avenues along the way. I did want to continue the coaching but I believed we were working on a particular outcome, which did not feel right. The rushed, fast track route did not work. Although, in the long run, it has helped me to change my life, increase my confidence and I certainly believe in myself more.
If someone was considering life coaching I would definitely recommend it. It helps you to change thought processes, stops you going round and round in circles and helps you to see things in a different light. It challenges “stuck in a rut” beliefs, not believing in yourself or not thinking your ambitions are possible.
But you must be totally honest, get out of your comfort zone and be prepared to take a leap of faith.
It has been really nice to relive the experience.
It is hard being a physical being, in this lifetime, to have complete faith and trust. And if something does not feel inspired and you don’t feel ”I have to do this right now!”, the emotion and motivation is not there.
By talking about or thinking about doing something in an inspired way, then having a period of time between the thinking and the action, we quite literally talk ourselves out of it and tell ourselves that we are not up to it. Therefore, that certain something that fired our emotion and desire slowly comes to a grinding halt and fear sets in.
……………….But then, if the timing is not right and you know you don’t want to, and it does not feel good, then perhaps it is not the right thing to do. This process kicks in as questions, from the universe:
“Do you really want this?”
“Do you REALLY want this?!!!”
And if the answer is still Yes, Yes, YES! Then it’s all systems go.
It does sound as life coaching gave her some valuable tools to take away and use, when ready to realise her goals.
- Books For Dummies? (holisticwords.wordpress.com)
Not sure why things have been soo tiring this week, maybe I have had a lot on my mind. It is always difficult to concentrate on writing when your thoughts wander elsewhere. I say concentrate but it feels out of context, a little fierce if you like. In the absence of a suitable alternative, I will turn the word into sentences. I don’t really think about what I write, it just happens. However, this week I have come to a bit of a standstill, which has translated in to an internal frustration, questioning why my want to create has been blocked.
When I am on a roll I have a general idea of the subject and some of the points I want to cover, but the connective tissues cover the bones without fuss. I might even start with a single word and take it from there. So that is what I am going to do now and see where it takes me.
This word popped up this week and it has just stuck in my mind. If I dissect the word (please excuse the second reference to anatomy, but it fits) it gives you a much clearer view, on the real meaning of the word:
Re Sent Ment.
What are you thinking now?
How does that word make you feel?
Has it given the word a different slant?
Lets say there is someone at work that you resent. Every time you hear their name or have to interact with them or receive an email from them, you wince. You start to scream inside, your temperature rises and your face visibly contorts. How is that relationship working for you? Has it been noted by your peers? Could it be holding you back in your career?
That scenario works for anything you are resentful about; be it your car breaking down and you are unable to fix it, crossed words with someone who is either here or passed on, an opportunity missed and you’re still kicking yourself, and the resentment you feel for not following your dreams right now.
It sounds rather silly but it can actually be easier to hold on to resentment than to let it go, simply because it crops up in your mind time and time again, hanging around like a noxious odour. Burying it won’t do neither, as suppressed thoughts have a nasty habit of creeping up on you when you least expect it. All these resentful feelings are ment to be re-sent to you over and over again, like the biblical depiction of purgatory. So my theory is that the negative emotions, attached to the re-sent-ment, are re-sent to you in order for you to learn lessons and work through them.
So what could be the best course of action?
Well, analysing your thoughts and feelings really help.
It allows you to delve deep into the very heart of the situation and understand why you feel this way. It can also quantify the level of meaningfulness; by showing you that perhaps it is not as significant as you thought it was. Maybe you need to be more understanding of the personalities or situations around you, seeing people (or issues) as they really are. In terms of personalities, it could in fact be their own insecurities that cause them to act a certain way towards you - and they don’t even realise that it is affecting you.
However, when someone or something has seriously damaged you, or someone you care about, it is very difficult to let your resentment go. But try looking at it from another perspective:
Do you want it to control you or make you feel angry – and thus hold you back – forever?
I’m guessing the answer is no?
If you do catch yourself feeling resentment it is no good shouting at yourself, as you are pouring your valuable energy into the issue. Quietly acknowledging the thought and re-focusing on the good things in life, will not only dispel your uncomfortable feelings but also raise your positivity.
Think of this process as a positive reprogramming of your negative reactions.
The fundamental philosophy of the Law of Attraction is: You get more of what you focus on. Ergo, if you think positively you receive positive experiences, if you think negative thoughts you get negative experiences. So accepting and looking forward, only concentrating on giving yourself a happy, content life is the best possible experience you can give yourself right now.
There has been much talk, between the holistic communities and my close connections, about the energy shifts that are happening, which will take us through the next six months or so. There is a much-needed call for releasing fears and outmoded patterns, which do not provide you with a positive, productive life. Changes are definitely in the air and this is the time to wash away any pent-up frustrations, anger and non-constructive patterns, which potentially drag you down and thus not allowing you to move forward and reach your full potential.
The spring has been such a long time coming for many of us, but it really is the time to clear out you inner wardrobe, cupboards and other hiding places and free yourself of clutter. But only you can choose to scoop up all that unwanted junk mail and post it back to the universe, clearly indicating that it is dealt with and you don’t want it back.
Remember: Life really is ment to be fun, it is ment to provide and it is ment to give you all the experiences that you really desire.