If you feel good, and hold onto that feeling, the chances are you will continue to feel good.
OK, lets put it another way.
You watch the news and its chock full of grief, war, famine, death. You think about a really unhappy time in your life and it makes you sad. You listen to melancholy, depressing music and you end up sitting in a zombified stupor, with zero incentive to motivate yourself.
Turn it on its head.
Comedy is on the TV and you are crying with laughter. You are joking about the time you went to work in your slippers and your new boss requested an audience. You have some cracking happy tunes filling your ears, with a big fat ”Yay!” feeling, and you want to dance right there and then!
You can see a pattern happening here, no?
Now, really, really think about the two scenarios and read them again. Did you read one slowly and the other one seem to make your eyes gallop across the page? How did each one make you feel? Well, either I didn’t get the point across properly or I am in my own happy delusional dimension.
To quantify, when you see, hear or experience something negative it does not feel good. By switching off to the negative, and filling your thoughts with something you do like, will in essence lift your spirits, your vibration, your energy and your mood. Life is of course all about choices. You can of course choose to allow negative things into your life – but what good does it do really? Would you not rather choose the positive and be happy?
Whatever positives you want in your of life; whether it be more money, to be physically fit, more confidence, to study and learn more, to be successful in your home and work life, you can attract it much quicker if you feel that is what you will do and emit positive vibes.
When you think about what you want, you know you want it because you believe it will make you happy. Take a look at these two statements:
“I wish I had more money”
“I want money”
The first is kind of wistful, day-dreamy and lacks drive, enthusiasm and raw emotion. Wishing for something may in fact put it further out of your reach, out of your life and it becomes as fanciful as the Philosophers Stone.
On the other hand statement two is more direct. It is clear and describes exactly what you want without the need of additional, unnecessary wording. You can really pour power and feeling into the statement and by doing so you are sending out your positive energy, your positive vibration.
As what you want will make you happy the emotion driving your wanting is happiness. So if you have not reached your goal, your want, the next step is to bring your vibration in line with the feeling you have, when you visualize getting what you want right now. If you feel happy now your vibration is tuned in to receive, as happiness creates happiness.
By being happy right now you lift your vibration and your positive emotions. By consistently feeling good and feeling positive you will bring in your desires much, much faster than if your emotions are on rollercoaster mode. Feel good and get what you want – simple.
Agreed, there are trails and tribulations in life, but by diluting the negative emotions, worry anxiety, fear, stress etc. you will: a) Cope better b) Feel better and c) Deal with them better.
So start feeling good and get what you want right now by doing one or more of the following, every single day.
- Listen to positive, fun, upbeat music.
- Watch your favourite comedy shows.
- Watch your favourite feel good movies.
- Get outside. Go to the park and sit on a park bench or take a trip to your favourite beauty spot.
- Do something silly. E.g. Tell a joke, find a funny clip. dance in the street - to make you and your friends laugh.
- Write down all the things you are thankful for right now.
- Find things that you just love or renew your appreciations for the things you have now. Really feel how you feel when you love your car, your house, perhaps you have seen a must have pair of shoes.
- Exercise. It helps you feel better, gives you energy and helps you sleep better. It does not have to be strenuous – a nice gentle stroll will suffice.
- Eat and drink well. Food and water gives you energy and feeds your grey matter.
- Be spontaneously nice to someone. It will make you feel happy seeing them happy.
- Have a “spring” clean. Clear out your cupboards, drawers, the fridge, sort your clothes and have a good old-fashioned house clean.
- Create and go through your want list. Feel and visualise yourself having your want list and make plans to accommodate your new life.
- Pamper yourself. Soak in the bath for two hours. Have a salon treatment.
- Set aside 1 hour a day. Stop rushing around and take a time out – just for you, no interruptions.
- Listen, watch or read something motivating. YouTube has a plethora of motivational free talks and you can find lots of really good motivational articles on the world-wide-web
- Smells lift your mood. Scented candles, essential oils and incense in your favourite smells will make you feel good, relaxed, warm and happy.
- Air your space. Open the windows and oxygenate your environment and your lungs.
- Have a 10-15 minute power nap. It’s amazing how recharged you can feel in just 10 minutes.
- Buy something you like. It doesn’t need to be expensive. Online shopping is great as anticipate and look forward to receiving your order.
- Write down all the things you do that makes you feel happy. Creating a list will motivate you to do other things and only add to raising your vibration.
By thinking about doing the things you love and by actually doing the things you love you will feel good. By feeling good and raising your spirits and your vibration, you will attract more good things into your life and you will get more of what you want.
So here’s to feeling good, to raising your vibration, and ultimately realising your wants.
- Attracting the Law of Attraction (psychicjeff.wordpress.com)
Never in my life have I wanted to quantum leap from one year to the next, until pre-Christmas 2012.
2012 has been a year of highs and lows for many, yet it has all served a major purpose; to consolidate all that you are and all that you want to be. It was a year of discovery, a year to find out who you really are and what road you would like to follow in 2013.
It has not been easy. Those who have chosen to take stock, and possibly “find themselves”, will welcome 2013 with elated, ecstatic open arms.
2013 will be about piecing all those 2012 internal puzzles and discoveries together. This New Year will be about recognising, and grabbing, those – consciously or subconsciously – longed for opportunities with both hands and saying:
“I CAN do this!”
“I CAN create and mould the life I want!”
“I CAN be myself!”
“I DESERVE to be happy!”
There are so many affirmations that apply to the energy of 2013 and each and every one of you will have different thoughts and ideas, to motivate, enthuse and ease the transition into 2013.
But know this: It is important to fully embrace and align to the spiritual energy of 2013. Do not try to force things to happen or battle against the tide. 2013 is all about going with the flow and using your intuitive, gut feelings. It is about fully understanding the emotions, desires and feelings of 2012 and bringing them with you into 2013, in order for you to work collaboratively with your inner self.
Self realisation of what is really important in your life and in your heart, will manifest very early on in 2013. Just feel it, feel the energy, understand the energy and then take your first positive, smiling steps to do what makes you truly happy.
Just be your wonderful self.
Thank you for your amazing support and comments in 2012.
I hope you all have a very, very Happy New Year
All the Best
Whether we openly admit it or not – to ourselves or others – we care about others opinions. It is a human trait in-bedded into our very psyche, since an early age; from school to the big wide “grown-up” (debatable) world of business politics.
However, I want to tap in to your creative selves and forget about everyone else for a while.
I want to introduce you to Holistic Creativity.
The real key to creating anything is to just let yourself go, removing self constraints and release control over your mind.
And in order to obtain holistic creativity you need to experiment, find out what you love to create. Whether it be dancing, painting, drawing, needlework, flower arranging, prose, poetry; even keeping a diary to record your thoughts and feelings is a medium of creativity.
Whatever you choose to create, try not to over think the process or hold the belief that you need to create perfection – especially if it is your first creative experience. Just open your heart and immerse yourself in your creation. Feel every output, every stroke, tap, line, shape, movement, flow……….use it as your therapy, your meditation, your relaxation and just let everything just happen.
Enjoy creating, believe in your creation, love your creation, feel your creation, be a part of your creation and be proud of what you have achieved.
Perhaps, to begin with, you may feel a little nervous about sharing your holistic creation, so it is important to give yourself praise and encouragement, as if you are the teacher looking at a pupils work with pride and awe. And once you have gained confidence you can reveal your achievements to your world.
However, the real objective here is not to make others happy but to make you happy, enrich your holistic well-being and to release any limits you may have set upon yourself. Your creation should provide you with insight, escapism from the world around you and help you to reconnect and harmonise you with the magical depths of the subconscious you.
Holistic creativity is a very personal thing, it gives you the opportunity to reflect and grow your own personal preferences and is an extension of your inner most personality. To coin a rather brutal phrase, “one man’s trash is another man’s treasure”, but it really does not matter if people warm or run from your creation. For example, I like the artist Jackson Pollock, whilst others may see it as childlike squiggle destroying an expensive canvas. Yet I like it. I cannot tell you exactly why I like it, I just do.
In addition, holistic creativity does not require any sense or logic. However, it can provide a deep reflection, or image, of how you view yourself and the world around you. The path of life is ever turning, changing and redirecting and with holistic creativity you can really chart your emotional map through life.
But for now, set rhyme and reason aside, and just use your creative activity to retreat into a world that is happy, warm and welcoming, allowing yourself to take patient baby steps, as you watch your craft evolve and change with your emotions, experiences and skill.
I will leave you with this inspiring quote by the American author, Paul Auster:
The real aim of art is not to create beautiful objects: it’s a method of reflection, a means of understanding the universe and finding one’s place in it
~ Paul Auster
Apologies to those not keen on “Rap”.
However, this tune shows if you really want something, you work hard for what you want (no matter what side of the tracks you are from) you can achieve anything – an ethos also adopted by 9.58 seconds, 100 meter dashing character, Usain “Lightening” Bolt
Anyway, this is Written in the Stars by Tinie Tempah
"If you don't have confidence, you'll always find a way not to win."
Tomorrow is promised to no one!
Do you really know what it is to be famous?
The money, the fame, the “love”, your picture all over the papers and magazines, your songs/movies aired on the national and international stations, the epic-ally fast car, beautiful home and luxury holiday homes across the globe…………………
Getting up at silly o’clock in the morning, on the road 24/7, grabbing a scrap of food when you can, dealing with the media, agents and spin doctors, the general public and the press scrutinising and intruding, not seeing your family for months on end………………..
One is a vision of utopia, the other is – you could say – a life taken over.
The grass can be greener on the other side but the reality can be rather disappointing, if you are not completely in touch with the ”cold light of day” reality, and your research and preparation is lacking.
Example: If you have not played any sport or taken part in any physical exercise since your school days, it is pretty unlikely that you will complete the 4 minute mile on the first attempt. You would prepare yourself, you would get the right running shoes, you would buy appropriate clothing, you would re-acquaint yourself with training techniques, you would plan your first route – perhaps even walk your route a few times and then you would start slowly; jog for 1 minute, walk for 2 minutes, jog for 2 minutes, walk for 1 minute. And so on and so forth, until you are confident and your stamina has increased, and perhaps you might like to progress and take on a running challenge.
The same preparation is required in your life long goals, your hearts desire, your burning ambitions. You need to start with the prep work (remember; fail to prepare, prepare to fail?).
What is it that you really want?
It is very important to work on this aspect and ask as many leading questions as possible, to create the entire picture – both on paper and in your mind. It is also important at this stage to be as honest and objective as possible. Include every small detail, upturn every stone and expose all the aspects of your desire to eliminate any nasty surprises. Are you in the city? Are you in the country? Is the gym large or small? How healthy do you look? What are you wearing? Are you working for a big corporate or self-employed? Is your house and old country manor, a cottage in the hills or a high-tech apartment overlooking the city?
Why do you want it?
This is your “Mr Motivator”, your emotional and physical driver. Why are you striving to become X or why do you want to be Y? Perhaps a better life for you family, recognition and confidence for yourself, financial security, to improve your health, to become a more holistic spiritual person. Why does this specific desire appeal to you and how could it enrich or improve your life?
What does it feel like?
If you desire a Rolls Royce Phantom but have never driven, sat it or even been near one how are you going to realise, and feel what your ultimate goal is really like? Granted, the cars are rare and as there are not many showrooms around, plus would any of us have the minerals to walk into a showroom and ask for a test drive, knowing that the bank account does not quite match the price tag? However, this does not mean you cannot read up every aspect, collect reams of photographs and visualise having the one thing that you want. By visualising your goal you are bringing the whole experience into your reality and you can really milk the feelings – thus providing yourself with the motivation, that pushes you on to make it happen.
Can you see yourself realise your goals?
Yes, “live in the present” is the best advice out there. But there is nothing wrong with a spot of role play and forward thinking. Again, very similar to creating the feelings of having your goal or desire but you are taking it to the next level. This time you are working on the confidence aspect of you and many world-renowned hypnotherapists use this technique, to build a heightened sense of empowerment. You need to observe yourself and really see yourself in your desired surroundings, scenarios and sensations; in that car, house, job or being physically fit. See yourself happy, smiling, confident, enjoying life, enthusiastic, content etc. as you take yourself through your daily dream activities. What do you do when you wake? Where do you go? Who do you meet? What do you do during the day? What materials surround you? What is your evening like? How do you feel when you get into bed?
Are there any opportunities you can create in order for you to experience your desires now?
One of the best ways for you create your desires is to look for opportunities that may be available to you right now. Networking is a great way to meet new people and gain an insight into all types of lifestyles. Ask your extended friends for info and advice, more relevant connections, recommendations etc. and get busy getting involved with the key people, groups, and companies. If there is a particular role you are interested in, could you shadow someone for a few hours? If you want to run your own business could you spend the day with a business owner, to find out their day-to-day highs and lows? Could you volunteer in your chosen field for a few hours, in order to gain that all important experience on your CV? Are there any affordable training opportunities? Perhaps the local government are running free or low-cost fitness or educational programmes in your area? Are there any free competitions that you could enter to win your dream car or a holiday of a lifetime?
Try thinking outside the box and grasp every opportunity by the horns. It is not about being calculated it is about getting you from A to B in the quickest way possible, in order to create your own happiness.
Remember, there is no point in having a goal or aspiration in life if you wistfully wish you had it, rather than believe you can have it. The only thing that is stopping you from holding you back, from who you really want to be, is you…………..
- Visualisation Techniques for Getting Into The Zone (lauramccracken.wordpress.com)
- The universal fedex: getting what you want when you want it (healthy-spirit.org)
- Visualisation to create your goal (newlifeparties.com)
- Happiness is a glass half empty | Oliver Burkeman (guardian.co.uk)
It’s the end of the month, which means only one thing.
It’s bill paying day!
So why not pay the bills and spend the rest of the month happy and relaxed.
If you don’t quite have enough, ask for help so you can pay what you have now.
The more you worry about money, the more stress you will feel.
The more you worry about money, the less you will receive.
The more you worry about money, the less you will feel good about life.
Free yourself from the worry of money.
Smile, be happy and take action today.
Love the money you have and love the feeling you get when you spend your money – no matter what you spend it on.
This shows you appreciate money, and you are grateful for the goods and services you pay for.
The more appreciation and gratitude you feel, the more you will receive!
Personal branding is a mark that you create for yourself. Something that’s makes you special and sets you apart from the others. It’s an epitome of who you are and it is also unique because tells us about your life, your principles and your passion. So what else should you know about personal branding?
Firstly, the most important thing about personal branding is you need to brand yourself in the career you want and not the job you have.