Life is a Journey, Take Note of the Destination
You can interact with so many different people all across the globe. You can learn, you can share, you can discuss, you can laugh, and you can cry.
I recently asked my network of Facebook friends if they had ever worked with a life coach, and if so, would they share their story with me?
One such friend agreed, and I am soo glad she did. It has given me an insight into the workings of life coaching, from a clients personal perspective. For that I am very grateful.
And this her story, from me, to you………………………………
I would not have thought about, or even paid for, life coaching and in terms of a prize item, I would have favoured a bottle of champagne. But I had won life coaching sessions at work, which was amazing timing. You see, I was at a bit of a crossroads and I think I was ready for a change – more so the on the career front. Strangely enough not long after my win I was made redundant, so it could not have come at a better time.
I did not really know what to expect. I went into the process thinking life coaching was more suited to the executive, business sector. I believed it was more appropriate to the “wanna be” high flyer, looking to climb the corporate and social ladder. Still, given my circumstances I felt lucky, and saw it as a gift from “above”.
However, I was pleasantly surprised. I found the Life Coach tailored her coaching style specifically to me and what I wanted to achieve. My initial obstacle was that I did not know what I wanted out of life so it became a journey of discovery, to find out who I was. Moreover, I felt fortunate that the Life Coach was spiritually aware, as I have always felt more drawn to spiritual, holistic guidance.
The life coaching sessions were conducted over the telephone, which felt alien at first. However, after the first session, I did feel more comfortable and relaxed talking on the phone. There were no distractions or the ability to read each other’s body language – the focus was completely on my life.
Each call lasted approximately 45 minutes. But the first session took longer, as there was a lot of information to divulge. Plus she ran through a questionnaire which I had completed, prior to the call. The main objective of the first call was for her to find out more about me, my life to date, and my current outlook on life.
I found the experience quite soul-searching and the approach was very similar to general counselling techniques. She listened, prompted me to speak, and guiding me to answer my own questions. It was as if she was leading me along a path, in my mind, to think about the present and where I wanted to be in the future - rather than focussing on the past.
She was on the whole understanding, empathic, and she seemed interested in what I had to say. But I did find her a little pushy at times. Her line of questioning really took me out of my comfort zone and deep within myself, to find the answers. I have to say it was uncomfortable, but at the same time a welcomed experience.
I quickly realised that I was plodding through life – the “rat race” – and all I wanted to do was get off the merry-go-round. Without consciously realising it, I was crying out for someone to help me see that I did not need to remain on the ride, that I would not fall over, if I would just take that first step. The life coach confirmed that if I wanted to move forward I could do it on my own.
She underlined the point that life was about the journey and I needed to take note of my desired destination, or goal. I needed to work out where I wanted to be and what I wanted to do for the rest of my life. However, I had a limited number of sessions. I felt rushed and there was no time to explore different options. I had chosen a particular career idea and although it was a good choice, deep down it did not feel right. However, as it was what I told her I wanted, she focused on helping me to believe that I could do it. The life coach also helped me to understand things in a spiritual way and gave me positive affirmations and homework, based on that chosen path.
Then it was time to complete the final task, of actually stepping up and making the new career happen. But it never came to fruition and other situations in my life took precedent. Perhaps it may have been different, if only we had more time or I was in a position to afford more sessions.
That was 3 years ago and I now feel (nearly) ready to take the next step. I feel more equipped now. I have experienced more of my journey and travelled down a few more avenues along the way. I did want to continue the coaching but I believed we were working on a particular outcome, which did not feel right. The rushed, fast track route did not work. Although, in the long run, it has helped me to change my life, increase my confidence and I certainly believe in myself more.
If someone was considering life coaching I would definitely recommend it. It helps you to change thought processes, stops you going round and round in circles and helps you to see things in a different light. It challenges “stuck in a rut” beliefs, not believing in yourself or not thinking your ambitions are possible.
But you must be totally honest, get out of your comfort zone and be prepared to take a leap of faith.
It has been really nice to relive the experience.
It is hard being a physical being, in this lifetime, to have complete faith and trust. And if something does not feel inspired and you don’t feel ”I have to do this right now!”, the emotion and motivation is not there.
By talking about or thinking about doing something in an inspired way, then having a period of time between the thinking and the action, we quite literally talk ourselves out of it and tell ourselves that we are not up to it. Therefore, that certain something that fired our emotion and desire slowly comes to a grinding halt and fear sets in.
……………….But then, if the timing is not right and you know you don’t want to, and it does not feel good, then perhaps it is not the right thing to do. This process kicks in as questions, from the universe:
“Do you really want this?”
“Do you REALLY want this?!!!”
And if the answer is still Yes, Yes, YES! Then it’s all systems go.
It does sound as life coaching gave her some valuable tools to take away and use, when ready to realise her goals.
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Posted on May 21, 2012, in Life Coaching and tagged holistic words, inspirational, Life Coach, Life Coaches, Life Coaching, Motivational, Neuro-linguistic programming, Personal Coach, Personal Life Coach. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.